| | | | | Steph, First, are you saying I was lying when we talked that morning? I guess the only way to prove to you about East would be like Doubting Thomas did with Jesus, he had to put his hand in Jesus' side before he would beleive. Call the school, call Lane Green, Terry's old boss - let him tell you the facts - I was not involved! Ask your father - I had nothing to do with it! I will not defend myself any further - with love comes trust you know. Second, you know my feelings on your choice to be with Terry. Nothing has changed. I do not agree with your choices but I will love you & be here for you always, the way moms & daughters should be. I do not want to be part of your relationship with Terry, like you do not want to be part of mine with Scott, & so we shouldn't be anyways. I have not "attacked" you, Terry or your relationship for quite a long time now. That has not gotten me any more respect or nicer treatment from you.
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Do you remember the two of us talking the morning after we all sat down at the dining room table. You asked me then, that it had crossed your mind, if I might have told Scott about you & Terry so that I could have him go to East - We really had an honest talk that morning if you remember. Much was said. I promised you that was not the case. I'm not sure how it got all changed around to that I did. On the things I promise you, you can be sure that they are the truth. I am getting way too much credit or blame on how much power over people you think I have. Just as you make up your own mind, so do others. You have made choices I don't agree with. Family members too will make choices you don't agree with. As much influence I have had over you with Terry is as much as I have over anyone - none. You are an intelligent girl - I know you can reason that. If you don't like Scott & what he stands for, that is your prerogative. If I don't like Terry & what he stands for, that is mine. *In addition, she called current East players/parents and former players/parents claiming the same thing (having nothing to do with Terry being forced to resign). *I have proof that she was involved with East and that my own mother has been lying to my face. Phone records showed that she called East multiple times. Also, on her interview with the Prairie Village Police she admits that she had my biological father go to East. Her counselor told her not to do it and to have someone else do it because the strings were almost broken between me and her. Another great example of how she has USED and MANIPULATED other people. 2. When Terry was arrested, my mother called Kansas City X club volleyball players/parents and told them that she had NOTHING to do with charges being filed. She added that it was ALL the Donleys doing. Why would she be in such a hurry to call everyone saying this if she really had nothing to do with it…..the FACT is that she had everything to do with it. 3. Jerri, my mother, also has stated several times that Terry is/was the one who made me drop out of school. She says that he is to blame for me leaving Texas State. However, this email she sent me proves otherwise. | From | : | "Wacker, Jerri" <jerriw@prukc.com> | |  | |  | | To | : | <stephvb14@juno.com> | | | | | Subject | : | love you | | | | | Date | : | Wed, Jan 11, 2006 09:15 AM | | | |
| | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | Stephie Lynn, I just wanted to write to you this morning & let you know how I feel. Sometimes I think you mistake what I say so here in words I want to clarify things. 1. You are amazing! Next, You were talking about a free education. I feel that where you were in Texas your education may have been free monetarily but not the free that God or your family would want for you. You were paying with sweat & tears that was not respected by the coaches. You were paying a hirer price than money! The way the coaches took yours & the other players bodies for granted & without respect was wrong. Four years of that treatment to your body would have not only been the price of sweat & tears but one of the rest of your life living with the results of all the mistreatment of your body. Even the orthopedic was horrified. Your new college & the volleyball I am very excited about for you. It will remain challenging in both areas, maybe even more so!!!! But with respect for your body & your future. That is what God should have for you. You are too precious in all our eyes for anything less. It is the right decision. You are blessed with many talents & brains. William Jewell will challenge you in all areas. In my choices in life there are some that I totally regret, & your senior year takes the top of the heap, but I cannot change that even though with all my heart I would so that you never would have felt that my love & mothering failed you. I love you!!! William Jewell has quality people you call friends, God as a purpose, high standards of both education & athletics…..you my darling girl deserve all of that & more. Go there with God’s peace & with the love of your family who is sitting back cheering you on….Go Stephanie, Go Stephanie….we believe in you, we adore you, we love you, we are blessed to have the awesome opportunity to share in the incredible woman that is YOU! mom Jerri’s Actions (My Mother) - Went on yelling rampage saying thing like: Terry was a rapist, Pedophile, a child molester. That she would have him put in jail and get a restraining order so he couldn’t see me. Also said that if Terry didn’t break up with me then she would ruin Terry and my life and do whatever it took to keep us apart. (she continued to threaten Terry for next couple of days via phone calls)
- Immediately began calling Peg Donley. Had only called Peg 3 or 4 times in previous 3 months but called her over 20 times in next 4 weeks. Also began calling and emailing attorneys. I saw one of the emails. She later states to the Prairie Village police that she doesn’t have enough evidence but was working on it.
- Flies to Texas and stays for one week. Brings books on
Sexual pedophiles and child molesters. Pressures me to See a counselor. - Flies back home. Terry comes down to see me. We get 66 phone calls in one day saying things like " I know Terrys not home he better not be down there" etc. Also calls all hotels in San Marcos (over 30) trying to see if we are staying there.
- She flies back to Texas and insist on me seeing counselor.
I do and the counselor tells me that I am healthy and that my mother is having trouble "letting go". Ask to see my mom. Tells Jerri that she had better back off or she was going to lose her daughter and that I was an adult. Jerri leaves counselor and says that I need to find a new counselor. (I refuse). - I come home to look at William Jewell college. I go to Nebraska to see a dying Uncle. Jerri assures me that is the only reason they want me to go up there. While there
I am taken over to my grandparents house where I am confronted by numerous family members (aunts uncles cousins and grandparents) on my relationship with Terry. I return to K.C. and Terry and I meet with my mother and biological father in an effort to ease the tensions. However, the meeting quickly turned into a ultimatum that either we broke up or: They would go to SM East and get Terry fired and they would take away all support from me (car, money, cell phone etc.) We told them we were not going to break up. I told my parents if they continued to interfere in our relationship I would no longer speak to them. I had already warned my mother on this several times. - My biological father (who had not been involved in my life) goes to East and tells them about our relationship and how he thought it was inappropriate. He also says that he did not have any reason to believe the relationship started prior to me graduating. East ask Terry to resign since I just graduated and it looked bad. (They stress that they have no reason to think nor do they believe the relationship started while she was still in high school). Terry resigns.
- I am furious and email my father saying that I will not
speak to him again. I also confront my mother who claims to have had nothing to do with him going to East and says she could not stop him from doing it if he wanted to. Jerri sends me several emails defending herself and stating how she had nothing to do with it and did not manipulate my father into going to East. In the course of the court case I discovered that my mother did call East repeatedly in the week after our meeting. In addition when Jerri was interviewed by the Prairie Village Police dept. she told them that she used my father to go to East to get Terry fired because she could not do it because I would no longer talk to her. Goes on to say that she knew East would call her to confirm that we were dating and she wouldn’t have any choice but to cooperate and she could get involved that way. - I do not talk to my mother for approx. 1 month cause
I feel my mother is lying. We begin talking again in early December. - Terry moves me back up from Texas as I had decided to transfer to William Jewell. On my first day home Jerri and I get into an argument about Terry and my relationship. I attempt to leave the house. Jerri blocks the door and will not allow me to leave. I said that I was going to call the police. Jerri pushes me and takes away my cell phone. I go to my room and use a 2nd cell phone (which Jerri was not aware I had) to call the police. The police show up and tell Jerri she is lucky she is not being arrested. Jerri tells the police that I "only want to leave to go be with her pedophile boyfriend". The police officer explains that I am an adult and can go wherever I want.
- I spend the night at Terry’s house several times over break. Jerri continually calls telling me that I have to come home. I go to lunch with my mother in another attempt to talk things out. An argument occurs and Jerri pushes me down in the parking lot. I take out my phone to call the police and Jerri takes it and breaks it in half. I push my mother off and walk to a pay phone where I call Terry to come get me.
- Mid-January Jerri is contacted by Leawood police trying to find out where Terry lives. Jerri starts being nice to me about our relationship and asking where Terry lives etc. I won’t tell her. A week or so later I get ill and Jerri asks me if Terry can pick me up and take me to her work- so she can take me to the doctor. Jerri had made arrangements with the Leawood Police to follow Terry from there.
- Late January the police serve the search warrant. They tell Terry that they are also serving one at my house so I might be upset when he talks to me later. Meanwhile I am at my house having dinner with two supposed friends from school. However, I had left with them to return to school prior to the police getting to my house. Scott Adams (Jerris boyfriend- now husband, who is 15 years younger than Jerri, calls and ask for Tori- one of my supposed friends.) They get off the phone and Tori says she left her purse at my house. When we return the police are there and they question me etc. Afterwards I want to leave to go see Terry however I did not drive because my car would not start and my mother had taken away my purse which had my cell phones in it. I try to walk to Terry’s house because he was not living that far away. Jerri and the police officers tell me that I am not allowed to see Terry or he will be arrested. I do not believe them and start to walk off. I make it a couple blocks when my mother drives up and tackles me and tries to force me in the car. A huge argument occurs. Then Julie Johnson shows up and says I can come stay there and I will be left alone etc. I agree to go there to stay until I can figure out what is going on.
Meanwhile, Terry tried calling and text messaging me. He gets a return text saying "stay away from me". We later found out that my mother had my phone and was the one text messaging. Terry then received a voicemail from Det. Dickey saying that if Terry continued trying to contact me that he would be arrested. Terry was confused because just earlier Det. Dicky had said I would probably be upset when Terry talked to me later. Det. Dickey left several other such messages that night and called Terry the next day making sure he got the message. Again during the course of the trial prep. Phone records showed numerous calls from Jerri to Det. Dickey this night. It also became obvious that Jerri had informed my "friends" of what was going to happen that night and had set it up so she could isolate me from contacting Terry. Jerri later admitted to police and at the trial that she had taken the spark plugs out of my car so it was not drivable that weekend. - I was at Julies for a few days but my mother kept
showing up and trying to talk to me. I decided to leave and walk to a friends. Jerri quickly showed up and told me to get in the car. When I refused then Jerri called 911 and told the dispatcher her daughter was suicidal and needed to be committed. I told them that I was not. Jerri talked me into getting into the car by threatening to call the police again and saying she would just give me a ride to my friends house. However, once in the car she began driving towards KU medical saying that I needed to be committed. Eventually, after many turn-arounds my mother takes me to my friend’s house.
- That weekend we found out that there was no reason that
Terry and I could not see each other so we got back together. During this time Jerri told people that Terry kidnapped me and took me to Texas. Many of my family members began calling Terry’s mother’s house in Texas and leaving harassing messages.
- In February, Jerri hired a private investigator to follow me around.
- I file a no contact/stalking order against my mother. Jerri has violated that order several times.
- I go through a 3rd party and ask for all my items still at my mothers house to be returned, including my puppy. After several weeks of saying she will return it she stops returning the 3rd parties calls and emails. I file a small claims action. Jerri counter sues me for $4,000 for care and upkeep of the dog I was trying to get.
19. After Terry’s conviction, Jerri continues to call the court house and even calls house arrest on two occasions. This is just a quick summary of events. For length purposes several other instances have been left out. It is our opinion that Jerri has used and manipulated the justice system and many other people to reach her goal of having us separated.
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